Episode #235: Dealing with Bad News

Why do buyers punish sellers who hide the “ugly numbers”?

Because buyers always find out. If a seller tries to soften or conceal the real cost, the relationship starts with doubt. A short-term win built on selective truth turns into long-term damage—lost trust, no re-orders, and reputational fallout.

History is full of examples where hiding bad news worked for a while, until reality arrived. The Bernie Madoff case shows the extreme endpoint of deception: a fraud sustained by carefully framed “modest but steady returns,” and by creating artificial scarcity to make people grateful for the chance to invest. It lasted only until market stress exposed the truth. The result wasn’t just financial collapse—it was family devastation, public ruin, and the total destruction of credibility.

Mini-summary: Hiding bad news may delay consequences, but it multiplies them when the truth surfaces.

A re-order culture is built on confidence: confidence that the seller tells the truth, that the value is real, and that future delivery will match the promise. If buyers sense exaggeration, half-truths, or “best-case-only” storytelling, they protect themselves by saying no—or by buying once and never returning.

The common pricing ploy is to show only the minimum-pain scenario and avoid the realistic one. But most stakeholders know they don’t fit that best-case category. So the seller looks evasive, and buyers do the math themselves. When buyers are forced to build their own narrative, the seller loses control of the decision story.

Mini-summary: Re-orders require trust; selective truth breaks trust before the second sale even begins.

Say the number clearly—then justify it relentlessly.

Avoiding price pain makes a seller look dodgy and duplicitous. The better approach is to meet the elephant in the room head-on:

• State the real cost without shrinkage.

• Explain why that cost is the right decision.

• Anchor it in long-term gains and avoided losses.

• Highlight opportunity cost: what happens if we do nothing now?

Value must be tied directly to the number. Talking about benefits without connecting them to cost feels abstract and unconvincing. Context turns pain into logic.

Mini-summary: Control the narrative by naming the price early, then wrapping it in real, measurable value.

Physical goods are visible and comparable; services are nebulous. Buyers struggle to “see” what they’re buying, so they default to price comparisons—even when those comparisons are meaningless.

That’s why value-based pricing matters most in services like:

• Leadership training (リーダーシップ研修 / leadership training)

• Sales training (営業研修 / sales training)

• Presentation training (プレゼンテーション研修 / presentation training)

• Executive coaching (エグゼクティブ・コーチング / executive coaching)

• DEI training (DEI研修 / diversity, equity & inclusion training)

In these areas, the price is only defensible if the buyer understands the transformation, not just the delivery.

Mini-summary: Services require proof of impact, not just a quote—because buyers can’t price what they can’t picture.

How should international stakeholders evaluate pricing in Japan?

They need Japan-specific context.

People living outside Japan often lack a realistic frame for Japanese pricing. HR teams in low-tax, lower-cost hubs like Hong Kong or Singapore can see Japan’s costs as “stratospheric.” Without local context, they compare Japan to vendors who:

• don’t know Japan,

• can’t deliver culturally or linguistically,

• and don’t hold relevant credibility.

For Japanese firms (日本企業 / Japanese companies) and multinational firms in Japan (外資系企業 / foreign-affiliated companies), value depends on local execution—especially in Tokyo (東京 / Tokyo) where expectations are high. A vendor who cannot deliver inside Japan’s cultural and business realities is not a true alternative, no matter how cheap.

Mini-summary: Japan pricing must be evaluated against Japan delivery realities, not offshore benchmarks.

Demonstrated superiority.

In one case, buyers objected to higher Japan pricing by comparing it to a low-credibility Hong Kong vendor. The turning point wasn’t discounting—it was demonstration. Once they saw what would actually be delivered, the higher price made sense because the value gap was obvious.

Two rules protected the sale:

1. Know your value.

2. Know what credible buyers in Japan will pay for results.

Even in hard markets—like COVID years—cutting price without cutting scope just teaches buyers your value is negotiable. Sometimes the strongest pricing move is being willing to walk away.

Mini-summary: Buyers accept high prices when they see high value—and when the seller believes in it.

How do sellers get better at hard pricing conversations?

By refusing to run from them, and by sharpening persuasion.

Hard conversations are part of selling. The skill is not avoiding the pain, but carrying it with confidence:

• Make value visible through examples, proof, and experience.

• Keep linking cost to outcomes.

• Sustain the narrative about why the buyer should act now.

• Be ready to fire clients who demand value without paying for it.

Mini-summary: Confidence plus evidence turns difficult pricing into a strategic advantage.

• Hiding cost or bad news kills trust and prevents re-orders.

• State the full number early, then justify it with long-term value and opportunity cost.

• Services need demonstrations of impact, not vague promises.

• Japan pricing must be contextualized for 日本企業 (Japanese companies) and 外資系企業 (foreign-affiliated companies) operating in 東京 (Tokyo).

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