Episode #285 A Different Value Based Selling

If your sales team can explain value but still struggles to earn lasting trust, the real issue may not be what they sell — but how they sell and why. In Japan’s relationship-centered markets, buyers look past polished pitches and focus on the salesperson’s true intention, integrity, and consistency over time.

Many organizations claim they do “value-based selling,” but often what they describe is simply good basic selling: understand client needs and match a solution to those needs. That’s important, but it’s not a differentiator.

The deeper challenge is this: buyers don’t just evaluate the solution. They evaluate the salesperson’s values — the beliefs and intentions behind the recommendation. When “value-based selling” is only a technique, buyers remain cautious. When it is supported by real values, buyers feel safe to commit.

Mini-summary: Value-based selling is necessary, but values-driven selling is what creates trust and repeat business.

Buyers quickly notice surface signals such as appearance, manners, and professionalism. A well-presented salesperson suggests credibility, while sloppiness raises immediate doubts about quality and reliability.

Visible markers of success — a luxury car, an expensive suit, or refined grooming — can also influence trust. Buyers often assume that if many others are choosing this salesperson, they must be competent. This is similar to the psychology of seeing a line outside a restaurant: the crowd signals quality.

Mini-summary: First impressions matter because buyers use visible cues to estimate competence and reliability.

Professional salespeople stand out through how they communicate rather than how aggressively they push:

• They know their products thoroughly and answer clearly without hesitation.

• They speak with precision and confidence, not with vague promises.

• They ask thoughtful questions that guide the buyer’s thinking.

• They let the buyer do most of the talking instead of overpowering the conversation.

• They stay calm and composed, creating a sense of control and safety.

A key technique is turning statements into questions so the buyer validates value themselves. For example, instead of saying “This includes a twelve-month guarantee,” a professional might ask:
“If a twelve-month guarantee were included, would that increase your confidence in moving forward?”
When the buyer says “yes,” the value becomes self-confirmed — and therefore far more persuasive.

Mini-summary: The most credible salespeople lead with questions that let buyers confirm value on their own.

What is kokorogamae (心構え / “true intention or mindset”) — and why does it matter in selling?

The true “value” question for buyers is not only about the product. It’s about the salesperson’s kokorogamae (心構え / “true intention or mindset”). Buyers ask themselves, often silently:

• Is this recommendation in my best interest or their best interest?

• Are they proposing what I truly need, or what gives them the highest commission?

• Can I trust them after the contract is signed?

Because buyers can’t see the seller’s full product lineup or profit margins, they must rely on the seller’s integrity. If a salesperson’s intention is merely to get this sale, buyers may later feel misled. But if the intention is to earn a re-order, the seller will prioritize long-term fit over short-term gain.

Mini-summary: In Japan especially, buyers judge the seller’s intention as much as the solution itself.

Buyers worry about being manipulated into a decision that later embarrasses them. No one wants to feel foolish for trusting the wrong person. That fear makes buyers defensive, cautious, and skeptical — even when the offer is strong.

This is why values matter so much. A salesperson must prove congruence between what they say and what they do. The ultimate test is whether they can walk away from a deal when it isn’t right for the buyer. That level of integrity is difficult under quota pressure — but it’s what sustains a long, respected sales career.

Mini-summary: Buyers fear manipulation; integrity and consistency are the antidote.

How do values-driven salespeople build long-term success?

Values-driven salespeople focus on trust first and revenue second — knowing that trust generates revenue repeatedly over time. They:

• Recommend only what genuinely serves the buyer.

• Stay transparent about trade-offs and limitations.

• Protect the buyer’s confidence and dignity.

• Choose relationships over transactions.

In Japan’s business environment — from 日本企業 (nihon kigyō / “Japanese companies”) to 外資系企業 (gaishikei kigyō / “multinational companies in Japan”) — trust is currency. The seller who acts with consistent values wins not just the deal, but the relationship and referrals that follow.

Mini-summary: Long-term sales success comes from serving the buyer’s best interest with consistency and integrity.

• Buyers judge a salesperson’s values, not just their solution.

• Kokorogamae (心構え / “true intention or mindset”) determines whether trust survives after the sale.

• Professional questioning helps buyers validate value themselves.

• Integrity — including walking away from the wrong deal — builds the re-orders that sustain a career.

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