Episode #351 Make The Buyer The Hero When Selling

Why is decision-making in Japan usually collective, not individual?

In Japan, the person you meet is rarely the final decision-maker. Most choices—especially those involving change, investment, or risk—are made through a group process. Behind your contact sits a wider circle of stakeholders, often not visible in the meeting, who will weigh in before approval is granted.

This shared authority is culturally comfortable because responsibility is distributed. If outcomes go wrong, the blame is not pinned on one person. The logic is close to: “We are all responsible, so no one is responsible.”

Mini-summary: Expect group decision-making in Japan, and treat your contact as the gateway to a larger internal audience.

Your buyer is not just a stakeholder—they’re the messenger. They must carry your idea into internal discussions and win support across departments and hierarchy. Their reputation rises or falls based on how convincingly they can advocate for you.

Your job is to arm them with clarity, confidence, and strong internal logic so they can promote your idea effectively, even when you’re not in the room.

Mini-summary: Your contact becomes your internal salesperson—make their job easier and safer.

Salespeople naturally explain business outcomes: cost savings, revenue growth, efficiency, innovation. That’s essential. But in Japan, you must also understand what “success” means personally for your buyer.

Unlike many Western executives who may say, “I’ll get a bonus” or “I’ll get promoted,” Japanese buyers typically speak modestly. They’ll say, “the team will be happy” or “the company will benefit.” Don’t take that at face value. That’s cultural modesty, not literal absence of self-interest.

You should still think:

• How does this initiative help them gain trust?

• How does it strengthen their standing internally?

• How does it support their career progression?

Mini-summary: Even if Japanese buyers don’t say it directly, personal success still matters—read between the lines.

Traditional Japanese promotion systems were shaped by nenkō joretsu (年功序列 — seniority-based career progression), where advancement depended on age and years served. That system is weakening.

Even Keidanren (経団連 — Japan Business Federation), Japan’s leading industry body, has stated that ability-based promotion should replace age-based promotion. This shift means buyers today can gain recognition for successful initiatives in ways they often couldn’t before.

If your solution helps them create visible success, you can position your buyer as a hero inside their firm.

Mini-summary: As Japan moves toward merit-based advancement, your solution can directly boost your buyer’s career impact.

What ethical line must salespeople never cross in Japan—or anywhere?

You must only sell what truly helps the customer. “Selling a deal to sell a deal” is desperation. It harms the company you’re advising and destroys market trust.

A salesperson who pushes solutions that don’t genuinely improve results ruins credibility for everyone. If your offering won’t help, don’t sell it—no matter how heavy quota pressure feels.

This professionalism is not optional. If someone can’t commit to ethical value-selling, they should leave the profession.

Mini-summary: Winning in Japan requires integrity—sell only what improves the client’s outcomes.

What does it really mean to “make the buyer the hero”?

Making the buyer the hero means taking responsibility for their internal reputation. Once you personalize them as a success story, you’re implicitly committing to protect their career.

They will push your case during internal approval rounds. Your obligation is to support them with:

• credible guarantees

• clear delivery standards

• responsiveness to issues

• zero excuses

You can’t toss problems to customer service and walk away. You made the commitment, so you must own it.

Mini-summary: If the buyer risks their reputation for you, you must protect them by delivering flawlessly.

How should you praise a Japanese buyer in front of others?

When meeting other stakeholders—especially your buyer’s superiors—praise your buyer. But praise must be specific and provably true. Empty flattery backfires.

Bad (flattery):

• “Tanaka-san is doing a great job.”

Good (truth-based praise):

• “Tanaka-san’s coordination of this project has been very effective. We appreciate how he handles even the smallest details, which helps us greatly.”

Always stay on the truth side of the line.

Mini-summary: Praise your buyer with evidence-based, specific recognition—not vague compliments.

What is the long-term risk if you fail to protect your buyer?

If you fail to deliver what you promised—on time, on budget, at required quality—you don’t just lose a deal. You burn your contact.

Burning a buyer inside their organization often means you can never work with them again. In Japan, relationships are long-term and reputations travel quietly but permanently.

You must defend your buyer internally, especially when problems arise. Your own systems may try to weaken that effort, but you must persist.

Mini-summary: Protecting your buyer protects your future business in Japan.

• Japanese decisions are group-based; your contact is rarely the final authority.

• Your buyer advocates for you internally—equip them to win safely.

• Even modest Japanese executives want personal success; help them become the hero.

• Ethical value-selling and flawless delivery are non-negotiable in Japan.

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