Episode #373: In Sales How To Break Through The Buyer Brain Logjam

Today’s salespeople face intense competition for a client’s attention. Between back-to-back meetings, overflowing inboxes, and constant social media noise, even when you have the appointment, your buyer’s mind is somewhere else. The question is: how do you break through those distractions and quickly shift the conversation onto business value?

Your client may be physically present, but mentally they’re still processing what just happened earlier in the day—and worrying about what’s coming next. That “mental competition” makes it harder for your message to land, especially in fast-moving environments like 東京 (Tokyo) where decision-makers are under constant pressure.

Mini-summary: Buyers are busy, overloaded, and not thinking about you—so your opening must earn attention fast.

CARES is a simple acronym to help you open a sales conversation in a way that feels natural, credible, and business-focused. It helps you “slay distractions” and guide the buyer toward a meaningful discussion about outcomes, not small talk.

C — Compliment
Offer a specific, intelligent compliment that connects to business impact—not generic praise.
Example: instead of “Nice office,” try:
“Your new office layout is impressive. Have you noticed it boosting team motivation or collaboration since moving here?”
This shifts the talk instantly to performance and results.

Mini-summary: A thoughtful compliment earns attention and opens the door to business topics.

How does “Ask” move the conversation forward?

A — Ask
Ask a relevant business question right away.
Example:
“With the possibility of tax increases, how confident are you that your company won’t be heavily impacted?”
You’re inviting them to think out loud about risks, plans, and priorities.

Mini-summary: Smart questions pull the buyer into a future-focused business conversation.

What counts as a strong “Referral”?

R — Referral
Use a mutual connection or trusted introducer to build instant credibility.
Example:
“I spoke with Takeshi recently, and he said your team is doing great work. He recommended I connect with you. I’d love to understand your goals and explore where we might help you go even further.”

Mini-summary: Referrals lower resistance and create trust early.

Why is “Educate” essential for modern sales?

E — Educate
Many salespeople rely heavily on questioning models. But if the conversation feels one-sided—only extracting information—buyers disengage.
Instead, bring valuable insights:

• market shifts you’re seeing

• trends from other industries

• relevant media or sector changes

• patterns from working with 日本企業 (Japanese companies) and 外資系企業 (multinational companies)

When clients learn something useful from you, they see you as a partner—not just a seller.

Mini-summary: Education turns you into a valued advisor and earns the right to ask deeper questions.

How do you “Startle” without sounding dramatic?

S — Startle
Introduce a compelling, surprising fact that directly affects their business.
Example:
“The youth population in Japan has halved over the last 20 years and is projected to halve again in the next 30. That means fewer employees and fewer customers. What does that mean for your hiring and market strategy?”

A strong “startle” makes them sit up, engage, and think strategically with you.

Mini-summary: A well-chosen surprise breaks mental noise and sparks real strategic dialogue.

How does CARES connect to the rest of the sales cycle?

Once CARES has shifted attention to business outcomes, you can smoothly enter deeper discovery and questioning. From there, your bridge to solutions is your credibility statement—why your insights, training, or services matter to their goals.

This is especially effective in 営業研修 (sales training) and consultative conversations where trust and relevance must be established quickly.

Mini-summary: CARES is your opening “key” that unlocks a high-quality sales conversation.

• CARES helps you cut through buyer distraction and win attention early.

• Each step (Compliment, Ask, Referral, Educate, Startle) moves the buyer toward business value.

• The framework builds comfort, trust, and permission to explore deeper needs.

• Ideal for high-stakes selling in 東京 (Tokyo) and across 日本企業 (Japanese companies) and 外資系企業 (multinational companies) environments.

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