Episode #383: Being Convincing In Front Of The Buyer In Japan

Why do buyers today distrust salespeople — and what does that mean for your team?

Modern buyers are cautious because they’ve seen every version of “silver-tongued” persuasion before. Many have been pressured into poor decisions and don’t want to feel fooled again. So when a salesperson starts pitching, the buyer often hears risk, not value.

For sales teams in Japan—whether serving 日本企業 (Japanese companies) or 外資系企業 (multinational companies)—this distrust can be even stronger, because business culture prizes credibility, humility, and relationship continuity. Your team isn’t just selling a product; they’re being evaluated as people.

Mini-summary: Buyers protect themselves from being duped. If trust isn’t built first, even a great solution will be rejected.

The cure is honesty—not as a slogan, but as a working method. Buyers don’t need perfect speeches. They need clarity that the salesperson is genuinely trying to help their business succeed.

Honesty shows up in how you ask questions, how you confirm needs, and how you recommend (or don’t recommend) your solution. When the buyer senses integrity, their anxiety drops—and real discussion becomes possible.

Mini-summary: Trust isn’t created by better “pitching.” It’s created by honest intent and transparent process.

Kokorogamae (心構え / true intention or mindset) is the inner posture you bring to a sales conversation. Ask yourself:

• Am I here to chase commission or protect my job?

• Or am I here to help this buyer win in their business?

If your true intention is anything other than helping the buyer, you might still close a deal once—but you won’t earn the reorder. Sales growth is not built on “one-time wins.” It’s built on repeat trust.

Mini-summary: Kokorogamae (心構え / true intention) determines whether buyers feel safe enough to commit—and to come back.

A first sale can be forced by clever talk. A reorder cannot. Reorders only happen when buyers feel respected, helped, and proud of the decision they made.

“Smash-and-grab” selling may exist, but it destroys careers and reputations. In Tokyo (東京 / Tokyo) and across Japan, business communities are tight. If a salesperson burns trust, the market remembers.

Professionals who sell honestly can walk into any meeting or networking event without fear. They don’t worry about being “found out,” because their work aligns with their values.

Mini-summary: The first sale tests your skill. The reorder tests your character.

Even introverts can thrive in sales when their intent is clean. If you truly believe you can help, your fear drops. You stop worrying about appearances and focus on outcomes for the buyer.

Think of it like bringing a life-saving cure to market: you’re not “bothering” people—you’re helping them. That mindset creates calm confidence, even in high-pressure environments like networking in Japan.

Mini-summary: When your aim is to help, confidence becomes natural—even if your personality is quiet.

Buyers listen to words, but they judge something bigger:

“Can I trust this person?”

They look for consistency between your explanations, your questions, and your energy. If your intent is right, your delivery becomes clearer, your answers become smoother, and your presence becomes reassuring.

That’s how trust forms. Not through tricks, but through alignment.

Mini-summary: Buyers don’t just evaluate your product. They evaluate your trustworthiness as a human being.

• Buyers are guarded because they fear being misled; trust must come before persuasion.

• Honesty and kokorogamae (心構え / true intention) are the foundation of sustainable sales.

• The real goal is not a one-time sale, but the reorder and long-term relationship.

• When your intention is to help, confidence and credibility follow naturally.

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