Episode #410: Why Sending Your Sales Proposal in Japan Is the Worst Mistake You Can Make

Why do proposals fail when you send them after the first meeting?

Because a proposal sent alone—especially after an online call—usually reflects your assumptions, not the buyer’s full needs. In a first meeting, you only have about one hour to build rapport, earn permission to question, and uncover what matters. If you send a document instead of walking through it live, you risk missing critical details and letting the buyer conclude you didn’t understand them.

Mini-summary: Proposals fail when they’re based on incomplete discovery and delivered without dialogue.

Your job is to quietly guide the buyer to explain four things:

1. Where are they now?

2. Where do they need to be?

3. Why aren’t they there already?

4. What will success mean for them personally?

To do this well, the buyer must do most of the talking, and you must take sharp, structured notes.

Mini-summary: The first meeting is for discovery, not pitching—your notes determine your deal.

Use a simple four-quadrant page. Label each quarter with the four discovery questions above and write answers into the matching box as the buyer speaks. When a box is thin, you immediately know what you still need to ask.

Mini-summary: Four-box note-taking makes missing information visible in real time.

What should a strong proposal include?

A clean proposal has three parts:

1. Their need, as you understand it

2. Your recommended solution

3. The required investment (not “price” or “cost”)

That structure is simple—but only if your understanding is complete.

Mini-summary: Needs → solution → investment; the quality depends on discovery accuracy.

Why do buyers hold back important information?

Because in early meetings, motivation is often low. Some buyers are curious, some are cautious, and some simply enjoy control. They may not reveal the full “gamut” of their need until they trust you—or until they see what you propose.

Mini-summary: Buyers don’t always disclose everything early, so your first draft will be incomplete.

They listen just enough to trigger their own internal monologue. The moment they hear a clue, they start planning a clever response or rebuttal. At that point, they stop hearing the rest—especially subtle “vital hints” about real needs and decision criteria.

Mini-summary: The biggest listening failure is thinking about your reply instead of their reality.

What’s the risk of sending the proposal without presenting it?

If you missed key needs, the buyer reads your document alone and silently thinks:
“This person doesn’t get us.”

And you don’t get the chance to repair the misunderstanding in the moment.

Mini-summary: Sending a proposal cold invites silent rejection and no second chance.

What is the “iron discipline” close after the first meeting?

Before ending the meeting, open your calendar and make them open theirs. Set the next meeting on the spot.
That next meeting is where you bring the proposal and walk through it together, confirming accuracy and surfacing objections early.

This is especially important with Japan-based buyers in 日本企業 (Japanese companies) and 外資系企業 (multinational / foreign-owned companies), where consensus and internal alignment often require very clear, shared understanding.

Mini-summary: Never leave meeting one without scheduling meeting two to review the proposal live.

How should you respond if they say, “Just send it to me”?

Do not accept that. Instead say:

“I’ll need to show you something, so let’s find a time for me to do that.”

Then stop talking. Don’t justify. Don’t soften.
Break eye contact, look down at your diary, and offer specific dates and times.

Mini-summary: Refuse the “send it” trap—book a review meeting immediately.

Because you want to:

• Read their body language in real time

• Confirm you understood their needs fully

• Test whether your solution feels attractive

• Tease out doubts and objections while you’re together

That’s how you handle “spiky porcupines” before they kill momentum.

Mini-summary: A live proposal meeting turns uncertainty into clarity and objections into progress.

• Never end meeting one by offering to “send the proposal.”

• Discovery must be complete before your proposal can land.

• Book meeting two on the spot to review the proposal live.

• If they push back, calmly insist: “I need to show you something.”

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