Episode #67 Extracting The Truth From Buyers

Why do sales conversations in Japan feel like detective work?

Sales is a profession for sleuths. In every buyer interaction, you face noise: no information, false information, incomplete information, low-value information, and only a small portion of truth worth acting on. The buyer has what you want, and ideally you have what they want — but before either side gets real, you go through a “dance” phase of polite shadow-boxing.

The problem? The truth may be that you’re not the solution, and time gets wasted before that reality surfaces. The goal is simple: get real facts on the table faster, while preserving trust and respect.

Mini-summary: Sales in Japan requires disciplined curiosity and patience to surface the real need early, without rushing or guessing.

It starts with buyer selection. Salespeople often get so desperate for a conversation that they ignore false flags. Calls to absent buyers wither. Emails vanish into silence. That silence creates tension when funnels feel skimpy and deadlines loom.

So a salesperson thinks: “An appointment is better than nothing.” It gives hope that maybe the buyer can be wrestled into a deal later. But that avoidance of qualification leads to wasted time — for both sides.

Mini-summary: Poor buyer selection creates a cycle of chasing silence, accepting weak meetings, and delaying the uncomfortable truth.

One qualified buyer wins every time. Meeting non-buyers burns time, energy, and credibility. We all have one or two killer qualifying questions that reveal whether a deeper conversation is worthwhile. The brave move is to ask them early.

Time is your only non-renewable resource. The more efficiently you qualify, the more value you create — even when you feel pressure to “just get meetings.”

Mini-summary: A single well-qualified buyer is worth more than a calendar full of polite but useless conversations.

Even after qualification, buyers may not be forthcoming. In Japan, jumping straight into detailed probing about weak points, failings, or shortcomings can trigger stony silence. You must set up the questioning phase.

A useful structure:

1. Credibility statement: what you do and how you’ve helped similar firms.

2. A humble bridge: “Maybe we could do the same for you?”

3. Permission question:
   “In order for me to know whether that is possible or not, would you mind if I asked you a few questions?”

Without permission, you will get nothing.

Mini-summary: In Japan, trust and permission come before depth; you earn the right to ask.

Why is the first answer rarely the full truth?

Even with permission, what you hear is often just the tip of the iceberg. You get part of the story, not the full scenario. If you assume you already understand, you risk solving the wrong problem — confidently, and incorrectly.

The temptation is to leap into “helpful mode,” especially if you’ve struggled to get appointments. But that’s when you’re most likely to fool yourself.

Mini-summary: Treat early information as partial; resist premature solutions until you verify the real problem.

What should you do instead of rushing to solutions?

Hold your fire. Dig deeper. Double-check assumptions. Then:

• Ask follow-up questions to test what you’ve been told.

• Assemble the issues you’ve heard.

• Have the buyer rank priorities.

There’s no point solving a marginal issue just because it was easiest to notice.

Mini-summary: Probe, confirm, and prioritize before prescribing any solution.

How important is trust-building in Japan’s sales process?

Trust is not optional in Japan. You often need multiple meetings before buyers feel safe enough to reveal “dirty laundry.” The idea of closing on the first meeting is mostly an illusion.

Be prepared for a number of conversations. Welcome them. Each meeting builds psychological safety and produces clearer data about what’s really happening.

Mini-summary: Multi-meeting trust-building is the normal path to truth and partnership in Japan.

What mindset keeps salespeople effective with Japanese buyers?

Be harsh with yourself during qualification. Assume the buyer does not trust you fully after one meeting. Stay skeptical of early information. Keep your eyes open for false prophets and iceberg-tips.

Remember: you’re not aiming for a one-time sale. You’re aiming for the re-order — a long-term partnership built on real understanding and mutual value.

Mini-summary: Skepticism + patience + trust-building leads to durable client relationships, not short-term wins.

• Qualify buyers early and bravely to avoid wasting time on non-fits.

• In Japan, ask permission before deep questioning — trust opens data.

• Treat early buyer information as partial; verify and prioritize needs.

• Focus on long-term partnership and re-orders, not quick closes.

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