Networking Without Wasting Time — How to Filter Prospects and Follow Up Effectively | Dale Carnegie Tokyo
Why do most professionals fail at networking follow-up?
After a networking event, many people send polite but meaningless follow-up emails — often copy-pasted templates that lack personalization or purpose.
Recently, I received one such note from a Japanese businessman. The English was flawless and the timing perfect, but it was clearly generic. We hadn’t shared any “valuable insights,” yet he thanked me for them anyway.
The problem wasn’t effort — it was inefficiency. He invested time following up with someone who was clearly not a prospect.
Mini-summary: Good manners aren’t enough in networking. Smart follow-up begins with smart filtering.
How can you identify real prospects in a room full of strangers?
Your first filter is the business card. Check their title — are they a decision-maker?
Next, the company size. For my business, firms with under 30 people are usually too small for in-house training, but they might send individuals to public courses. Over 30? Then we can discuss company-wide solutions.
The third filter: Do they have a need?
On the back of my card, I list our training categories — Leadership, Sales, Presentation, Communication, DEI, and Executive Coaching. I walk them through each one briefly and ask, “Which of these would help your team the most?”
If there’s a genuine interest, I set the stage by saying, “I’ll follow up after the event — let’s set a time to meet.”
Mini-summary: Ask targeted questions early — qualify prospects before you invest time in them.
How do you disengage politely and move to the next opportunity?
Many people get “stuck” talking to one person for too long.
Here’s my simple exit strategy:
“It’s been great chatting with you. Why don’t we both meet a few more people while we’re here? I look forward to catching up again soon.”
Smile, shake hands, and walk away. No awkwardness. No wasted time.
Remember — networking isn’t about collecting contacts; it’s about identifying potential clients.
Mini-summary: Be respectful but decisive — time is your most valuable sales tool.
Why is preparation key to effective networking?
Follow-up should never come “out of the blue.”
If you didn’t establish relevance during the conversation, your email will feel forced and generic.
In contrast, if you filtered carefully and conditioned the prospect for follow-up, your outreach will feel natural and welcome.
Every industry has its own filters — size, authority, needs, timing, or budget. Define yours and apply them consistently.
Mini-summary: Networking without filters wastes time. Preparation turns casual conversations into real business opportunities.
Key Takeaways
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Don’t send generic follow-up emails — personalize and pre-condition first.
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Use clear filters: title, company size, and expressed needs.
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Politely move on from non-prospects to protect your time.
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Follow-up only when you’ve earned the right to do so.
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Efficiency in networking equals effectiveness in sales.
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